Dan Akins

The primary way I have been affected by the program was that in seeing the bond develop between the men and in hearing the stories of their lives, I got to witness them as whole people—to get a glimpse of the pain, disconnection, and unmet needs built up over the course of their lives that eventually led to their crimes. In seeing the heartfelt remorse they expressed, and how they cared for and supported each other in their healing, I got to experience them as far greater than the acts they committed. I felt connected with our common humanity, not just with the men in that room, but with all people. I experience a deeper sense of empathy in my life, for others and for myself in times where I have acted in ways which I regret.

In taking on the focalizer role, I got to experience my own strengths, weaknesses, and learning edges. I felt moments of confidence and joy, where everything seemed to flow smoothly. I also experienced moments of deep insecurity, and saw how my own issues can interfere with my ability to hold group space. I learned to respect that the maturity and ongoing growth process of the facilitator is essential to the quality of group space. I believe this will affect the pace and avenues through which I pursue further training in facilitation, Nonviolent Communication, and all areas.